You can only pass on what you have. If you don’t respect or like yourself, what do you think will happen if you try to interact with people? Since you have not learned how to fully express love because you don’t love yourself, can you really expect yourself to truly love others?

If anything, whatever definition of love you work with, will be retarded by definition. By retarded, I’m talking about your definition is a slave to selfishness. You look at yourself as the center of the universe. You look at your perspective and your priorities and agendas as overriding anything else. I’m sorry, but if you try to love others with that mindset, at best, it would be a self-serving kind of love. At worst, it would be a sick, twisted, and ultimately, mutually destructive kind of love. It is not love at all because as defined by most philosophical traditions, love is inherently selfless.

So the bottom-line here is you have to know how to love yourself first before you can step out of yourself and give love to others. Do you see how this works with sites like ? Do you see how these logical conclusions flow into each other? The bottom-line here is that sex means transcendence. What that means is that when you have real sex with people, you are given a tremendous opportunity to transcend yourself.